Mentally and emotionally detach yourself from the person and/or situation and all of the circumstances surrounding the incident. Separating yourself mentally from the problem and un-emotionally viewing it (sometimes called witnessing) lifts the whole situation from the personal to the impersonal plane of consciousness.
Do Not allow yourself to dwell on the unhappy details.
Do Not get other people’s ideas on how to solve your problem, except those of a professional therapist or spiritual teacher.
Analyze the difficulty to be solved, by seeking to find out just what you said or did that caused or created the problem. The answer always lies within your own mind and heart. Make no excuses for yourself. Do Not blame, criticize or pass judgment upon others for what they may have done. (They did the best they could with the knowledge they possessed, as did you.)
Face the issue squarely within yourself. Do Not run away from it. You only postpone the reckoning and very often the subsequent problem is more difficult than the one you have tried to escape.
Accept full responsibility for whatever you may have done that does not measure up to your highest concept of what you know to be right.
Listen to/for the voice of conscience (your inner voice) for it can always be depended upon to be truthful.
Discipline yourself by the control of your own willpower, by replacing every negative thought and feeling with a constructive one.
If you feel that you have broken a Universal Law, or a Societal one, take it to your Higher Power/Higher Self/the Universe/God, and humbly ask for forgiveness. Then forgive yourself.
If others have wronged or injured you, ask that they too, may be forgiven because, they, like you, did the best they could with the knowledge they possessed, no matter how devious, malicious, or hateful it was.
Ask Any Invisible, Never-Before Human Source (God, The Universe or Cosmos, Angels, your Higher Self, Jesus, Buddha, Allah, etc.) that you trust, and believe, has the Ability to grant your wish:
- To give you the strength and courage to face the consequences of your actions, and for help to overcome the hurt and resentment in your heart.
- To help you learn the (karmic) soul lesson intrinsic within the situation.
- To help you act as if you had already succeeded in overcoming the difficulty, even while you are still in the midst of it.
Get quiet and listen for the Divine guidance. Surrender yourself, your will and the problem and humbly ask that His will be done, in and, through you, and for all concerned. It is through the surrender of your personal will that you clear the way for the Universe to do Its healing work and to bring forth a solution to your problem.
Give thanks to all who have assisted you for this process, for your freedom from all negative thoughts and emotions; for the strength and courage that has enabled you to face yourself, free from the pain of hurt, resentment or bitterness.
If you have not already received a solution to the problem, then wait patiently with joy and thanksgiving in your heart, letting go of the outer solution to the problem. You have surrendered It to the Universe, and now the Universe will take care of it..in Its own time and in Its own way.
As time passes, a mystic veil will cover the incident, and you will forget the ugly details connected with the experience. There will be no haunting memories to disturb you because the Miracle of Transmutation has taken place within you. It will be a closed chapter in your Book of Life. This Miracle of Transmutation has come to you through the forgiving, healing Love of The Christ Within…also called Divine or Universal Love.
So Mote It Be (And It is Done)